Bondage Play - An Intro Into the World of 50 Shades
Bondage Play - An Intro Into the World of 50 Shades

Whether you love it or hate it, you have to admit…people go crazy for the 50 Shades series. 

Women all over the world are fantasizing about the sexual escapades of Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele. What was once a taboo subject, is not anymore due to the mainstream success of this book and film series. With the release of 50 Shades Darker, and now 50 Shades Freed hitting theatres shortly before Valentines Day, this may have got you fantasizing about the world of bondage play.

If you are thinking about going a little “Fifty Shades” in the bedroom, here are a few things to think about and get started. Most importantly you need to remember that this sort of thing requires strong communication and an open mind.

1.) It doesn’t need to be painful

This is one of the biggest misconceptions. BDSM stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism… Christian and Anastasia explore the extremes, but that doesn’t mean you need to go down all of those avenues during your first foray. In time as trust is built, you can further explore these concepts in the bedroom.

2.) What are you looking to get out of the experience?

Ask yourself what your fantasy involves? Are you submissive or are you wanting to take on the dominant role? What are looking to get out of this experience? How open are you and your partner to trying new things in the bedroom?

Take a look at what you want to get out of the experience both for yourself and then compare that to what your partner wants. Is there a middle ground? Communication is key before the experimentation begins. You need to keep an open mind. By trying new things your partner suggests, you may find new things that turn you on.

3.) Start Simple 

After discussing with your partner, figure out where you want to get started. Take things slow to set the groundwork for what gives each of you pleasure. An easy step is by using bed restraints and blindfolds. You can establish a level of dominance and submission and figure out who likes which role. At the same time, being restrained and wearing a blindfold heightens a person’s senses. Establish a level of comfort. Experiment with temperature play. Try heating and cooling lubes, use ice cubes. Use sex toys such as vibrators and butt plugs, if that’s more your thing. In time you can work your way towards whips and paddles and leather. Sex requires a certain level of trust and that will build over time with your partner. Take your time and explore.

This fantasy doesn’t need to be a “dark secret.” The most important aspect about entering the world of submission and dominance is communication. Without a mature and respectful outlook for your actions, the fantasy can easily be lost. The key is to communicate and and truly listen to your partner to find out what they enjoy. There are two of you in this together and odds are, it will take a few attempts to get a better understanding out of what makes each of you tick. 

Post on : Feb 6, 2018
Post in : Blog
Author : Obtain Bliss

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